Put Yourself First, Baby!

Wondering how to grow your business without going crazy or doing things you hate?

Welcome to my orbit: I can teach you all about that!

I’m Brigitte van Tuijl, a writer and master coach for women entrepreneurs.

I show you how to make a big difference in the world without selling yourself short or changing who you are.

In the past two decades I’ve helped thousands of women get clear on their true dream and make it real.  My clients have launched businesses globally, published their first books, doubled their incomes, and realized their most important goals and desires.

I teach that the key to finding freedom and fulfillment in your business lies in putting yourself first. That’s the way to live your purpose and transform your life, your business ánd the world. I call this ‘The Art of Divine Selfishness’.

I learned to be Divinely Selfish early on, thanks to being super introverted. 

And no, this doesn’t mean that I’m shy, it means that I need a lot of alone time to feel happy & balanced. 

I love people, but when I have too much interaction I’m peopled out pretty quickly! For that reason I lovingly call myself a hermit.

I’d already found a great balance between having alone time and interacting with others in my personal life.

In my business, this wasn’t as easy, though … 

I struggled with finding that balance for years! Even though my business was 90% hermit-proof, as I call it, that just wasn’t enough for me. I’m not the type to settle for anything less than I truly want. (And I teach my clients to shoot for the moon, too!)

Until in 2012 I was finally done compromising and adjusting, even though I was only doing that a little bit.

I’ve learned that compromising and adjusting eats away at you and slowly suffocates your soul, even if you only settle a little. It all adds up!

So I turned myself from a Crappy Hermit into a Happy Hermit in 2013 and never looked back.

If you’re curious about that journey, stay tuned for my upcoming book ‘The Happy Hermit – how to thrive as an introvert entrepreneur.’

I just started writing it (April 2021), and plan on publishing it at the end of this year. (Two other books are already waiting to be published first, as you can read below.)

How I can help you

I use my master coaching skills, expertise in finding and living your purpose and getting you breakthrough after breakthrough to help YOU build a business & life you adore, too!

When you work with me, you benefit from these skills plus my knowledge in the areas of business, mindset, energy & healing.

And from my wicked sense of humor, no-nonsense attitude, and the occasional cursing, of course 😉

You can work with me privately—I have a handful of spots available twice a year. Or you can learn from me in one of my online programs.

As you read above: I LOVE people – in moderation.

That’s why I limit appointments to an ABSOLUTE maximum of 4 per week. For 3 weeks per month, that is—every fourth week is my hermit week: a completely appointment-free week. 

Having loads of alone time keeps me happy and prevents me from turning into a raging lunatic 😉

That’s why I only work with a very limited number of private clients. Plus: I need lots of time to take it easy, be lazy, and write lots of books (in random order).

Do you want to build your business around everything YOU love & need, too?

Check out my 1-1 coaching if you want my support. 

If you’re driven to do business & life in your own terms, in your own way, without sacrificing, compromising or changing who you are, I might be the perfect coach for you!

You can read all about & apply for a spot here.

Not ready for private coaching yet? You can check out my online programs here.

Or leave your name & email address here, and you’ll receive free weekly(ish) articles on doing business & life YOUR way!

My Books

I published my first book ‘Ontdek wat je écht wilt – en maak daar je werk van’ (available in Dutch only) in 2008 (Uitgeverij Ank Hermes). It has sold thousands of copies since.

After nine years I published my second book Unmute Your Life – break free from fear & go for what you REALLY want in July 2020. This is the first book in The Art of Divine Selfishness Series.

After that, I published:

The Gap – bridge the gap between where you are and where you want to be (November 2020)

Book 2 in The Art of Divine Selfishness Series: The Art of Divine Selfishness – transform your life, your business & the world by putting YOU first (March 2021)

The following books will be published in 2021:

The Inner Minimalist – clear the clutter of your mind for a simpler, quieter and happier life (May / June 2021)

Write Your Non-Fiction Book in 3 Months (in only 30 minutes per day!) (September / October 2021)

The Happy Hermit – how to thrive as an introvert entrepreneur (November / December 2021)




Some random things about me:

I live in Leiden, The Netherlands. I’m totally happy and in love with my man Arjen since 2001. We share our lives, but not a house – we both enjoy having our own place too much.

I LOVE great food (anything healthy with loads of flavor).

There’s nothing you can wake me up for – I love my sleep too much.

I don’t do hobbies.

I LOVE to read books. But that’s not a hobby. That’s a must, like oxygen and water.

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