I know all about it.

My thing that wouldn’t budge was money. Oh lord, how I struggled with that!

I didn’t have enough and freaked out about solving that glaring lack of money so I could pay my bills.

Or I DID have enough and still worried. Would money still come in next month? Would I still have enough at 83?

What a mess. 

I did everything you can think of to get rid of the years-long recurring worries and stress.

Practical solutions, like changing business models and trying yet another marketing strategy. 

Mindset solutions, like changing conscious and subconscious beliefs. 

Manifesting solutions, like scripting or visualizing. 

And random things like trying to increase my self-love, tapping, or finding information in the Akashic Records. 

Most of it worked for a bit. 

Nothing stuck permanently.

Worries kept coming back.

But even more frustrating than that was not being able to permanently solve it for 12+ years.

What was I still missing?

What was I still doing wrong?

(What was still wrong with me?!)

Until one day, everything changed.

Not by finally finding the missing manifesting secret or best marketing strategy on the planet.

It was something different entirely:

Dropping the whole analyzing / understanding / visualizing / managing / controlling / fixing loop.

I no longer tried to examine or change my habits, actions or thoughts. 

Instead, I drew my attention away from the thoughts and stories.

And I became curious about where these thoughts and stories actually came from.

I saw that thoughts … just appeared. No matter how hard I looked, I could not see how I created them.

And stranger still … I could not find the ‘me’ I thought I was either …

Instead, I found something I’d never paid attention to before:

The ‘space’, awareness, or quiet everything arose from: thoughts. Beliefs. Stories. The idea of ‘me’. 

There’s no word that can accurately describe what that ‘space’ is exactly. You can only sense or experience it.

And from there …

Thoughts, beliefs and stories gradually dropped. 

And with that, worries and stress dropped as well.

Situations that used to freak me out were met in calm now.

My mind stayed clear.

Solutions, answers and actions arose on their own, without me trying to force or will them to come. 

Everything was just … clear.

And even when stress arose, there was calm underneath. 

It didn’t take me over for hours, days or even weeks or months on end.

It came up.

It disappeared.

On its own.

Without me doing anything about it.

The question of whether I’ll still have enough at 83 still arises at times.

But it’s no longer a problem that takes me hostage.

They’re just thoughts, accompanied by sensations.

They just move through me and leave without a trace.

My ‘one thing’ is no longer an issue — and pressure, stress and worries in general are no longer a disturbing factor either.

Of course, you’ll want to know if this will work for you as well. 

Even when your thing is different from mine or any of the examples on this page. 

Or you’ve worked at it harder or longer.

And from everything I’ve seen, the answer is ‘yes’.

Because the issue is never the issue.

It’s constantly trying to manage, fix, control or solve it.

That’s what keeps worries, stress and issues alive … and creates new ones.

Once you step out of that loop and shift your attention from your thoughts about the problem to the ‘space’ these thoughts come from …

Everything changes.

Your entire relationship to whatever issue arises is different.

You’ve entered a new way of being and seeing where life is still life, and you still take actions.

But what’s false for you gradually falls away.

On its own.

Including pressure, worries and stress.

Actions and decisions are just … clear.

No need to overthink them night and day for weeks.

What’s right and true for you arises, too.

You’re so much calmer, at peace, and at home in yourself and the world.

Shit can hit the fan and instead of freak out … you sip your tea, watch the inner storm, see it leave again, and just know what to do.

And that one thing?

It’s either solved or it turned into a neutral thing that no longer bothers the crap out of you.

That’s the shift I guide my private clients through.

If this speaks to you

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My creds

I’m Brigitte van Tuijl, coach and the author of 9 books, including Awakened Awareness and Money: The Illusion of Safety, Scarcity, and Self. 

My first book came out with a Dutch publisher in 2009 and somehow still sells today without any promotion. 

I’ve been coaching women entrepreneurs for 25+ years, created 50+ online programs, helped 1000+ clients, and was one of the first coaches in the Netherlands to work online — back when most coaches still insisted you could only do this work sitting in the same room together.

Glad I didn’t listen to them. 

I only work with a handful of private clients. A happy hermit by nature, I love people — in moderation.

5 random things about me

1️⃣ I read a ridiculous amount of thrillers.

2️⃣ I love people—in moderation. 🙂

3️⃣ My humor is sharp and often politically incorrect.

4️⃣ I curse. And I fucking love it.

5️⃣ I love water—being on it, in it, or anywhere near it.

You can also find me on LinkedIn and Substack.