Why an easy business and life are your worst nightmare

You say you want ease. A lighter business. A simpler life. Less stress and more flow.

And yet—when things finally start working, when success happens effortlessly, when the path opens wide without resistance—you don’t relax into it. 

You don’t trust it. You grip harder.

Not because you love effort. 

Not because you enjoy making things difficult. 

But because it feels necessary. 

Because if you don’t hold it all together, who will?

If you don’t double-check that email, refine that offer, tweak that sales page—what guarantees it’ll work? 

If you don’t keep an eye on your results, how do you know you will get what you want?

You don’t manage and tweak because you want to. 

You do it because you think it holds everything together.

And that makes sense. It really does.

That’s why you (unconsciously!!) sabotage ease the moment it shows up:

You hit your biggest revenue month … and immediately start trying to secure the next one. 

You simplify your business … then overcomplicate the marketing. 

Your team runs smoothly … but you keep stepping in, micromanaging things that don’t require you. 

You finally take time off … only to fill it with errands, emails, and random busyness so it doesn’t feel like you’re wasting time.

Because when things are truly easy, when everything flows without your interference, something inside you panics.

You do all these things because control makes you feel safe. 

It makes you feel like you’re the one holding everything together.

But… what if you’re not?

What if things don’t work because of your grip, but in spite of it? 

What if life moves not because you push, but because it was always moving, with or without you?

If that’s true—if things can work without all your effort—then what was the effort even for?

That’s why ease feels so uncomfortable. 

It doesn’t just remove effort. 

It removes the illusion that you were ever the one making things happen.

Control gives you a role to play. 

It makes you feel needed. 

It gives you a sense of purpose and makes you feel safe and secure. 

But it’s also what keeps you trapped.

You don’t need to learn how to embrace ease. 

You don’t need to work on letting go. 

You just need to see the truth: ease isn’t the problem.

The problem is the identity that can’t exist without control.

When you see that, the grip loosens.  

And ease is no longer something you have to allow.

It’s just what remains when there’s nothing left to manage.

And the best part? 

You were never the one managing it all anyway.

Life has always been at the helm since before you were even born …

Love,