Struggle is addictive.
You don’t want to let it go, and secretly, you enjoy it.
How do I know?
Because I used to be addicted to it—even when I thought I wanted struggles gone forever.
Why are you seduced by it?
Because you don’t trust easy. That’s not real!
Because you don’t think there’s value without pain.
Because you’re afraid you’ll be bored if you have no more problems to solve.
Because you’re afraid you’ll stop growing, evolving.
And because goddamn, it feels good to run on adrenaline and rush to your own rescue!
How satisfying to move through that hero’s journey over and over:
Conquering obstacles, looking in the abyss, surviving.
Not to mention bonding with others over your struggles.
What can you bond over if there aren’t any issues to talk about?
Let’s keep the struggle.
It has many hidden benefits.
What’s left of life, of personal growth, of inventing better ways, if there’s no more drama, nothing to fight with?
But does struggle really give you all that?
Or does it just keep you running in circles?
Well …
What’s left without struggle is a life where issues still occur—but they don’t overwhelm you.
They don’t take over your entire being.
What’s left is space to explore what’s here before, during, and after struggles appear—you might find the one watching it.
You might realize you are one with it.
You might realize struggle, the struggler, and the struggled with are one—and find great peace in that.
You might find freedom more expansive than you can imagine.
You might find unshakable peace.
You might feel more alive than ever.
You might realize that life is more mysterious, more glorious, and more mundane than you knew.
You might find worlds you didn’t know were there.
Let struggle seduce you as long as it does.
Don’t fight it.
Don’t change it.
Just watch it without engaging.
Who knows, struggle might leave you, too, and take its false promises with it.
Love,
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