The truth about being too much. (Spoiler: you’re not.)

Do you ever fear that you’re too much?

That you email too much, talk too much, ask too much, or just ‘are’ too much in general?

I used to worry if I emailed too much. 

Especially during launches. I worried if people would find me salesy, pushy, or just plain annoying.

So I carefully planned how many emails to send and made sure every email added value, tips, or inspiration.

Just sending a sales email would be too much!

Somehow along the way you picked up the idea that you’re too much. 

For me, it started in childhood. 

My parents were firm believers in the ‘children should be seen but not heard’ motto.

When they watched sports on TV, we had to shut up and get out of the way. If they listened to the radio, we were constantly shushed.

In school you had to be quiet and sit still all day, and this idea took deep root:

I’m too much. I’m a bother to others.

If you’re a woman, this idea gets drilled into us even more deeply.

Society teaches us to be nice, compromise, put others first and stay small.

The result?

You hold back. You don’t speak out fully. You avoid rattling cages or asking for exactly what you want.

This feels shitty. It’s exhausting. And yes, it can hurt your business too.

Here’s the truth:

The fear of being too much is a mental construct, rooted in avoiding rejection and seeking approval.

But your worth isn’t tied to anyone’s opinion or approval.

In reality, there’s no fixed point where someone becomes ‘too much.’

It’s entirely subjective.

It’s based on other people’s stories, beliefs, and behaviors—which have nothing to do with you.

You, like everyone else, are exactly as you’re meant to be. 

Is the sun ‘too much’? 

Does the moon fall short?

Do you think the stars should dim their lights because they’re crowding the sky?

No. 

It wouldn’t even occur to you to think such a thing.

So how could you, who are just as much an expression of Life as the sun, moon, and stars, ever be too much?

The next time this fear arises, take a moment. Pause. Breathe.

Notice: Who told you this?

And then gently remind yourself: 

This is just a thought. It has nothing to do with you.

Because you’re not too much. 

You’re perfect, just as you are.

Love,