Do you see yourself as an unfinished project?

Flipping through my 2017 planner, I was curious about what I was doing then.

One thing was clear:

Back then, I was still knee-deep in self-growth and self-improvement.

Throughout that planner, I wrote journal prompts and reminders to raise my vibration.

And apparently, I had a ritual where I answered the same 3 questions weekly:

👉 How do I choose to feel this week?

👉 Which 3 actions will make me feel that way?

👉 What are my 3 golden actions this week? (Actions that brought me closer to my most important desires)

I forgot the specifics of the inner work I did that year, but I still vividly remember this:

I was always working on myself.

Always trying to grow and improve how I felt, what I did, and how I did it.

Yes, I enjoyed it.

But … 

Joy was never the source of this inner work.

At its core was the belief that I wasn’t good enough the way I was, EVER.

There was always a shinier, wiser, more evolved version of me waiting in the wings.

And I had to make sure I constantly acted in ways that brought me closer to this next best version of me.

But I never arrived, because the goalposts kept moving.

So I had to continue to work on myself.

Which I did. 

For years.

And it was fucking exhausting. 

Until one day—without planning it, without deciding to—it all fell away.

The whole idea of self-improvement dissolved, because there was never a separate self to improve in the first place.

In its place, an ocean of rest opened up..

Not the kind of rest I thought I’d earn once I ‘got there.’

The kind of rest that was here all along, buried under heaps of effort.

I don’t miss that inner work.

At all.

The inner stillness, peace, and freedom that took its place are SUCH a relief.

“It feels SO good to just BE!”, one of my clients told me recently.

“All these years of treating myself as an unfinished project that needed to get done has worn me out.

I’m so glad I no longer feel like I need to work on myself.

It’s so refreshing and amazing to let go of all that and to see how life gets better and better without having to work for it.”

Her words were a perfect reflection of what I’ve experienced myself.

Yeah. Same, girl. Same 😉

If you’re tired of always working on yourself, always looking at things you can improve or change, know this:

Life and living don’t require hard work.

Neither does business.

You’re not a work in progress and there’s nothing wrong with you.

So, breathe.

Relax.

BE.

From BEING, life and business unfold for you effortlessly.

Relax and let life take you by the hand.

(It already does. You’re just too busy to notice it now.)

You don’t need to fix yourself.

You can simply rest in being.

 

Love,