Maybe there’s a persistent issue that won't go away.
Like having plenty of money but still not feeling safe and secure.
Or still feeling like you should be doing more, despite your success.
Maybe there’s a dream that stays out of reach.
Like wanting to write a book, but staying stuck in your fourth draft.
Or taking more time for yourself, but somehow still overstuffing your schedule.
Or maybe you can’t pinpoint exactly what’s off, you just feel that something’s still missing.
You've done everything you could think of already:
Coaches. Masterminds. Manifesting. Mindset work. Energy healings.
You can easily speak in front of 2000 people and got your robot vacuum cleaner working even though the instructions were in every language except one you understood.
But this one thing, whatever yours is exactly?
Get. A. Handle. On. It.
It frustrates you to no end.
Why can't you get this sorted?
You think about it while blowdrying your hair (or that of your chihuahua).
You're constantly, unconsciously, scanning for new strategies that might fix what still feels off.
It's become the annoying soundtrack of your life.
Which is now almost more annoying than the issue itself.
How great would it be if that one thing would finally fall into place?
Big decisions would simply be clear to you, without overthinking them twelve nights in a row between 2 and 4 am. Instead, you sleep like a baby.
You could sit down for dinner and deeply enjoy the exquisite taste of the first asparagus of the season. Instead of not tasting much at all, because your Internal Auditor was too busy measuring all the ways you fell short that day.
The relief you'd feel … you can almost touch it.
But how could it fall into place?
And is it really possible after everything you've tried already?
No matter what you've tried before or how long you've been trying.
No matter what your issue is.
The mechanics are always the same.
Because it's not the issue that keeps you stuck.
It's the constant attempt to understand, analyze, solve, manage, achieve, or fix it.
That's the loop that keeps you running in circles without ever arriving where you want to be.
And how you get out of that?
By dropping the eternal quest for solutions, meaning, and answers.
The moment you stop seeking …
what you seek can find you.
(And you see that it was so much closer than you think …)
That's what changes when you work with me.
And it doesn't look like anything you've tried before.
It's not about improving your mindset.
We don't change thoughts or replace beliefs.
We don't set goals.
And you don't have to become a better version of yourself.
Because those are the exact things that keep that one thing out of reach and create new issues.
Instead, you'll discover an entirely new and effortless way of seeing and being that finally resolves that one thing.
A way that has nothing to do with understanding or managing it better.
It happens through something most people completely overlook: where your attention goes.
Instead of focusing on your thoughts about the issue, you shift your attention to the space underneath them.
From there:
Mental noise quiets down.
Decisions become simple.
You work without needing to kick your ass or give yourself pep-talks.
Pressure and tension dissolve.
That one thing either falls into place… or it simply stops bothering you.
Either way, you're free.
Even when you're still busy.
Even when old or new issues poke their head above the horizon.
Problems may still arise, but your relationship to them is radically different.
You no longer spiral into panic mode, overthinking every detail day and night.
In the midst of chaos, your mind stays clear.
You just ... deal with it.
And then it's gone.
How I know this works?
Because I've been where you are.
For me, that one thing that drove me up the wall at times was money. It would go well for a while and bam … worries and stress came roaring back.
I tried absolutely everything to fix it:
Changing my business model, working with affirmations, making stellar business plans (I never stuck to), journaling my ass off and learning 237 ways to shift subconscious beliefs. (More or less.) (Probably less.)
Everything worked for a while.
But never permanently.
Even when money was there, I couldn't deeply relax.
There was always a voice whispering that money might run out one day.
Until, finally, everything changed.
I found the sense of security and trust that I'd always be okay, no matter what.
I found peace in the midst of those recurring worries.
And the nagging sense that something was still missing, still not right, dissolved.
How?
It didn't come from finding a secret tool or manifesting trick.
It came from dropping the whole shebang:
The seeking, fixing, hoping, crashing, and repeating that same cycle again. And again.
I stepped out of it.
I stopped trying to control my thoughts, my results, and life.
Instead, I looked directly at the urge to control. At the thoughts, the stories, the beliefs … without trying to change or delete them.
I realized that thoughts and feelings simply arose — I wasn't creating them. They just came. And left.
The thoughts I spent so long to change no longer had a hold on me.
And underneath that inner noise was already that deep, unshakable peace, freedom and ease I'd been looking for.
And nothing fell apart.
Nothing went to shit when I stopped trying to control my life (and myself.)
I didn't end up broke when I stopped trying to fix the money stress.
I felt so much lighter.
Like I put down a backpack filled with guilt, worries, and heavy books I didn't even want to read.
Worries about money rarely appear anymore.
But it's no longer a problem.
And it always solves itself without any force or stress.
This is the shift my clients experience, too — regardless of what your 'one thing' is.
Your issue may be different from mine or any of the examples I mention on this page.
It doesn't matter.
The mechanics are always the same.
Because it's not the issue that keeps you stuck.
It's the constant attempt to solve it.
“I feel a deep, unshakable peace now, no matter what happens. I no longer worry about anything. Life is effortless. Business is easy. And even when something shitty happens, I still feel calm and at peace because I deeply know and trust that everything is okay.”
What changes when we work together
The most important shift you'll experience is that this one thing that kept eluding you falls away.
Somehow you write that book, feel safe about money, or finally have plenty of time for yourself.
You've reached that goal without stress or overthinking it twelve ways from Tuesday.
Or … it no longer bothers you. At all.
You don't understand how, but it just became a neutral thing.
You see that the biggest problem was never the problem itself.
It was the exhaustion of trying to manage, control or fix it.
It was the bone-tiredness of being at war with yourself.
And also ...
You worry so much less in general.
People around you don't understand your decision? You do it anyway, without explaining yourself or wondering if maybe they know better.
A plan doesn't pan out? Whatever.
It may still sting or hurt.
But it no longer makes you doubt every decision you made since fourth grade for a year.
You're not constantly trying to manage life / your thoughts / the way your belly flops over the edge of your pants.
You feel looser and more at peace in general.
The tension in your shoulders drops.
Your constant frown softens.
You find yourself breathing deeper and slower without having to remind yourself of that.
Problems no longer feel overwhelming or urgent.
You shrug, knowing that solutions always come. Usually out of the blue, when you're daydreaming during lunch.
Business and life get easier.
And no, you won't turn into a lazy, couch-sitting, chips munching zombie who does nothing but watch Friends reruns all day.
You'll still do what needs doing, just without the accompanying pep-talks, ass-kicking or fourth-guessing.
You wake up, and instead of instantly running through today's to-do list, you sip your tea while staring at the pink and orange clouds the sun is almost breaking through.
Your mind is quieter. Your body is more relaxed. There's no need to force yourself or overthink what you should be doing. You trust yourself to do what needs doing when it needs doing.
You can simply be where you are, without constantly feeling like you should be somewhere else.
You stop fighting with yourself.
And you feel more 'you' and do things more your way than ever.
Your One Thing turned out to be the doorway to a deep and beautiful transformation:
You still have dreams and ambitions.
You still create positive changes in your life and business.
But you no longer need them to work out before you can feel completely at home in your life, exactly as it is.
You finally found the freedom you’ve been looking for.
“I feel a deep, unshakable peace now, no matter what happens. I no longer worry about anything. Life is effortless. Business is easy. And even when something shitty happens, I still feel calm and at peace because I deeply know and trust that everything is okay.”
How we work together
We work together for 3 months.
We meet weekly, on Zoom.
In between calls you get ongoing support via the free Voxer app.
You don't have to wait for your next call to share or ask what's on your mind. You're supported throughout the whole time we work together.
Why 3 months, not less?
Because getting an insight or a big fat breakthrough can happen in a split second.
But then your kid comes home with lice, your cat vomits all over your brand new laptop and the bank accidentally cancels your credit card. And suddenly, you're stressing like no tomorrow again.
I want to be there for you in the moments it actually matters, including those vomit-lice moments, so you can get real and lasting changes.
And since I only work with a handful of private clients, I can actually be there for you whenever you need me.
This is for you if:
- ✔️ You're successful on paper but there's still that one thing that nags you.
- ✔️ You want to get that one thing fixed, gone and done with and you don't know how to do that.
- ✔️ Or maybe you don't have a neatly defined One Thing — you just know something's off, and nothing you've tried has fixed it.
This is NOT for you if:
- ❌ You're in crisis and need immediate practical support.
- ❌ You want a step-by-step system.
- ❌ You're looking for a bargain and want a quick fix.
“The 1-1 coaching is deeply transformational and life changing, and worth every cent of my investment—and more! It's truly priceless.”
The next step
If you're ready to finally kick that one thing to the curb, apply for a private conversation.
(Don't have a neatly defined one thing? That's okay, too.)
We'll talk about what's going on and see whether my coaching is the right fit.
No pitch or "but wait, there's more."
Just a chat to see if this is right for you.
You don't need to prepare anything.
I've heard "I don't even know where to start" more often than I've bought new socks.
And I bought a lot of socks.
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What clients say:
“I feel a deep, unshakable peace now, no matter what happens. I no longer worry about anything. Life is effortless. Business is easy. And even when something shitty happens, I still feel calm and at peace because I deeply know and trust that everything is okay.”
“The coaching has been life changing for me. Everything is different, and I'm deeply grateful. I can't describe how gifted Brigitte is. Her intuition is laser-sharp, and she knows exactly what you need to create deep and lasting transformation. Working with Brigitte is magical and sublime!”
“Life is so much brighter now. I didn't know this level of ease was even possible!”
“The 1-1 coaching is deeply transformational and life changing, and worth every cent of my investment—and more! It's truly priceless.”
“Wow. Just ... wow. No words can describe how much lighter and brighter life feels now. This is what I've been looking for my whole life. Forever grateful.”
“I am living a completely different life now. And it keeps growing and evolving. Brigitte has helped me step into a new reality of magnificent and endless possibility, love and beauty.”
“I was in the self-development space for some time and visited personal workshops or online webinars with great teachers over the past decade.
But something was missing. I was consuming the information, but didn’t apply it to all aspects of my life. Business building, love life, friendships, … and that’s when the need for real 1:1 work appeared.
Brigitte was my first choice, and I never regretted the investment!”
About
I'm Brigitte van Tuijl. Coach. and author of 9 books. My first book was published by a Dutch publisher in 2009 and somehow still sells today without any promotion. The rest I self-published.
I've been coaching women entrepreneurs for 25+ years, created 50+ online programs, helped 1000+ clients, and was one of the first coaches in the Netherlands to work online — back when most coaches still insisted you could only do this work sitting in the same room together.
Glad I didn't listen to them.
I only work with a handful of private clients.
A happy hermit by nature, I love people — in moderation.
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