“What do you do?” she said, draining her water bottle to replace the sweat that dripped from her forehead.
We were standing in the scorching sun on a small festival in the town centre of Veurne, a beautiful city in Belgium. She was one of the artists who was there with a playful installation.
“I work with women entrepreneurs who have everything pretty much together … except for one thing,” I said. “No matter what they’ve tried already, it’s still not achieved or solved.”
I was all set to add examples of that one thing, assuming she’d need more context to understand what I was talking about.
She didn’t.
“Oh, I know exactly what you talk about! I have that with money!”
She described how she was on an endless financial rollercoaster. One moment, she was swimming in money. The next, she didn’t know how to pay the bills.
“It’s been like that since as long as I can remember. And yeah, I’ve already tried so much! It drives me crazy. Why doesn’t it change?!”
We talked some more about it.
She was delighted that some stranger knew exactly how it felt to have this one thing you just can’t fix.
Even though you’re capable, smart and successful. Even though every other area in your life pretty much works.
It was beautiful to see how this recognition made her feel:
Relieved.
She’s not the only one who struggles with one thing that just won’t fall into place.
(Many) others have the same experience, even though their ‘thing’ may be something different.
There’s nothing wrong with her.
Just like there was nothing wrong with me for struggling with the same goddamn issue for years and years.
And just like there’s nothing wrong with you.
You see, whatever issue may keep coming back, or whatever goal just stays out of reach, no matter what you do …
The issue is never the issue itself.
It’s the conditioned loop you’re stuck in:
You analyze what’s wrong, seek a solution, maybe see a flash of progress … and fall back. You start analyzing again, and the same loop continues.
While you slowly lose confidence (and hope) over time, wondering what you’re still not seeing. Wondering if there’s something wrong with you.
That loop is the real problem.
Getting out of it, and seeing the thing you struggle with fall into place or lose its power over you completely, is the essence of my coaching.
Imagine no longer lying awake at 2 am trying to come up with yet another solution …
and no longer secretly wondering if you’re defective somehow …
Can you feel your shoulders drop and jaw relax just thinking about this?
If you recognize that ‘one thing that just won’t budge’ and want to chat with me to see if my coaching might be the perfect fit for you, too, fill in this short form.
I’ll contact you within 2 business days to schedule a chat via Zoom. You can share your story and we’ll see if my coaching fits. Or not.
See you soon?
Love,
P.S. Yes, it’s possible to finally sort your ‘one thing’, whatever it is, without adding new strategies or working on yourself more.
(Even if you’re not sure what your ‘thing’ is exactly, and you just feel like something’s missing.)
A shift in attention is all it takes.
Let’s talk to see if my coaching is right for you – or not.
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