“I’m not worried about money, even though the mortgage is almost due and I’m not sure how to pay it. Should I be worried that I’m not worried?”
A question I’ve been asked by more than one client.
Not always about paying a mortgage.
Sometimes about missing out on a big project.
Still not having found your soulmate.
A social media post you worked on for 6 hours not getting any likes within 3 seconds.
You’re used to worrying about it.
And now, suddenly … nada.
No worry on the horizon.
What the fuck?
Something must be wrong.
How is it possible you’re not stressed?
It’s unhealthy.
And probably unsafe.
It’s not.
You just learned that if you don’t worry about someone, you don’t truly care.
That a little stress keeps you on your toes.
That worries somehow magically keep Bad Things away.
They don’t.
Worries are just little bursts of energy.
Flaring up and out again.
Next time you’re worried, about whatever:
Don’t react.
Don’t soothe.
Don’t jump into problem-solving mode.
Just see how long that worry lasts if you look at it as if you’re watching a fly bump into the window looking for the exit.
That fly will find the open window sooner or later and leave you alone.
Just like that worry will.
(You were never in charge anyway.)
Love,
P.S. Worries melting and energy returning: that’s what happens in private coaching.
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