Your biggest job is not the work you do.
It’s believing you’re the general manager of your life. And all the effort and struggles that come with it.
I’m not asking you to believe you’re not.
I’m asking you to see what being the general manager actually looks like.
Just a few items in the job description:
* Figuring out if what you feel is fear or intuition;
* Controlling your habits and behaviors;
* Figuring out what you want, now and later;
* Figuring out how to get it;
* Feeling responsible for your results;
* Figuring out how to fix what you don’t want;
* Getting the thing you wanted and immediately scanning for what’s still missing;
* Trying to diminish tension, discomfort, and stress;
* Being responsible for creating a life you like;
* When things don’t work: analyzing, learning, blaming, tweaking, recommitting.
It’s a fulltime job without vacations, sick days or days off. (And the pay sucks. You want lasting happiness, and never get it.)
You only get a break when you sleep. And even then, the brain’s often still busy.
It’s exhausting.
But you don’t realize how much. Because you think this is what life is, as a responsible adult.
It’s not.
Because you’re not the general manager.
Life is.
And once you see this, you’re free. Pressure drops. Tension, too.
Sure, it can still be felt at times. But you no longer see that as a ‘you’ problem. You see it for what it is: a feeling that’s there one moment, and gone the next.
Here’s a small test to see if you’re truly the one deciding and managing:
✔️ Can you accurately predict your next thought? Or the one you’ll have three hours from now?
✔️ Did you create the thought you have right now? If so, how exactly? Or did you just … notice it was there?
✔️ Wiggle your fingers. (Yes, literally do that right now.) Are you truly making that happen? How, exactly? Or does movement just … happen? And is simply experienced?
There are no wrong answers. But freedom might show up in looking.
You can safely quit your biggest job now.
Love,
P.S. If you’re tired of managing everything—and curious what life feels like when that job drops—private coaching might be for you.
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