In 2008, I published my first book. I was excited and scared. What would people think? Would they like it?
Thankfully they did. Several people wrote positive reviews, and I was happy with all of them. Except for one.
This reader wrote a blog about how my book inspired her. I felt happy reading her review, until I read something she said inspired her that A) I did NOT put in the book, and B) I did NOT agree with at all!!!
To this day, I don’t know if she misunderstood what I wrote or confused my book with someone else’s.
When I read her review, I felt crushed.
I felt mad, scared, and sad at the same time. Sad, because I thought I hadn’t been able to convey my thoughts clearly.
Scared, because I feared her representation of my book gave others the wrong idea about my book.
Mad, because I felt out of control. None of this had anything to do with the review. The only thing that happened, was that my fears and doubts got triggered. And so, I did the only thing I needed to do AND had full control over: I explored my feelings and shifted my thoughts and beliefs until I no longer felt triggered.
The moment you put your creation out into the world, you no longer have control over it.
As long as you work on your book (or online program, song, piece of art, of whatever you create) it feels like you have control over it. You’re in charge of the content.
But every reader reads a different book.
They read it through the lens of their mindset, emotions, experiences, knowledge, etc. etc. They can see things in your book you NEVER put in it. They can draw conclusions that have NOTHING to do with what you meant. And that’s out of your hands …
You can deal with this in 2 different ways.
You can decide to let this stop you. To hide from the world, to stop creating, or to stop sharing your creations with others.
Or you can decide to not let this sway you from your path. To keep showing up, to keep creating, and to keep sharing your creations with others.
As the author of 7 books so far, I obviously chose the first option. 😉
But I struggled with it for sure! It took quite some inner work before and after I published my first book before I could say:
Once I created something and share it with others, it’s out of my hands. I have no control over how people will receive it. And that’s okay because what others think is none of my business anyway. Instead of putting energy in worrying about what others may think, I focus on creating the next thing.
How about you?
Do you let fears about what others might think stop you from showing up or sharing your work?
If so, but you dream of writing (and publishing!) a book, my book ‘Write Your Non-Fiction Book in 3 Months (in only 30 minutes per day!)’ helps.
It’s chockful of mindset- and practical tips to write your book and share it with the world.