You know what’s the best thing to do when you don’t know what to do?
Because here’s what usually happens when you don’t know what to do:
You get in your head.
You start overthinking.
Your mind gets so busy that you can no longer hear your intuition. Inspiration can’t come in, there’s no space for it to enter.
You can’t see solutions that stare you in the face because all you’re focused on is thinking that you need to think your way out of this!
But you can’t think your way out of anything. Because the best ideas NEVER come from (over)thinking.
Your best ideas come when you’re NOT thinking about your problem. They come in the shower, during a walk, after a good laugh or while watching a movie.
They come when you’re relaxed and aren’t trying to control or fix anything. Suddenly, out of the blue, you know what to do.
The only thing you have to do when you don’t know what to do is to make space for the answers to come to you.
That requires you to take a step back. To get aligned again—to find your inner calm, to relax your body and mind so that the ideas, answers, and solutions that are available to you already can come to you.
Like there’s no light without dark and no ‘yes’ without ‘no’, there’s also no problem without a solution.
It’s the other side of the same coin.
When a problem is here a solution is, too.
You don’t have to ‘make’ a solution—it’s already here.
You don’t have to think your way to it—it will come to you.
You don’t have to know how and when it will come—you only have to be open to receive it when it arrives.
And the best way to be open for solutions and answers is to do nothing.
Relax your shoulders, your eyebrows, your eyes, your jaws, and your mouth.
Literally lean back.
Let your body soften.
When you do that, your mind relaxes as well.
Once you’re calmer the answers can come. WILL come.
As a still recovering control freak, I know how hard this can be!
I also know that it’s the best thing you can do.
You know this, too.
When do things flow with most ease in your life?
When you’re constantly worrying about what you need to do, and you try to control how and when things should happen?
Or when you’re relaxed?
When you’re not thinking much at all?
When you’re absorbed in this moment or are doing something that brings you joy?
You know the answer.
I know it, too.
I just need to remind myself of that from time to time.
Like you may need that reminder now.
Stop thinking about your issue or question.
Just for today, do absolutely NOTHING about it.
Not for the sake of finding an answer.
But for the sake of being at peace in the moment.
The answers will come.
They’re already here.