Recently some of my deepest fears, doubts & insecurities come up again.
I KNOW that the first reaction to fear and stress is that you want to run away from it.
(I definitely feel that sometimes now!)
And I know that that’s the LAST thing you should do.
I used to run away from fear.
In my twenties I used to numb and suppress my feelings with alcohol, cigarettes, and food.
Those days are long gone.
I learned (over and over) that your deepest fears don’t go away if you pretend they’re not there or try to push them away.
Your deepest fears stay with you until you stare them straight in the face and you can BE with them, breathe through them, and you eventually surrender to LIFE.
That’s the beauty of life.
It always brings you opportunities to heal, to grow, to expand, to let go of control and to find more joy.
It’s up to you what you do with those nudges. It’s okay if you decide to numb your fears, to suppress them, run away from them, or pretend they don’t exist.
The thing is that they DO exist.
And until you’re ready to face your fears, you can only live like this:
Live your life avoiding everything that can potentially trigger your fears.
(That’s why most people don’t GO for their dreams – they’re avoiding their fears instead.)
Or live your life waiting for others, the world, or circumstances to change before you can feel happy and safe. Which makes you completely dependent on what others do or don’t do.
(Instead of turning inwards and finding safety and security within yourself.)
We ALL have deep fears. We ALL feel them at times.
The question is, how do you deal with them?
Do you numb them, suppress them, distract yourself from them? Do you try to control what others do so you can feel safe?
Or do you face them. Feel them. Befriend them. Breathe through them. So that you end up on the other end of fear where you always find the same things: peace. Freedom. Love. Joy. Light.
I know what I choose.
I’m in the middle of facing my fears and no, I don’t like it AT ALL when I’m in the thick of it. I still want to run away. I still want to distract myself from my fears, and numb them, and I still wish certain situations would change so I wouldn’t have to feel this shit!
But I know running away from my fears doesn’t bring me what I most truly desire:
To live in total inner freedom, joy, and peace. To live the life of my dreams.
And that, my friend, is ONLY possible when you’re willing to face your deepest fears and insecurities.
It’s okay if you don’t want to do that and you choose to avoid your fears.
But life is so much richer, so much better, when you face and befriend your fears.
Your fears are, after all, your portals to your deepest healing, your biggest expansion, your brightest light, and your ultimate freedom.
P.S.: Want to live the life of your dreams, long for more freedom and joy and want to feel fully alive, but fears, blocks or other obstacles seem to be in your way?
Maybe I can help.
I have a handful of Free Soar Sessions available this summer.
P.P.S.: I recently interviewed Rebecca Wiener Mc Gregor for my podcast about fear.