Last Friday, someone interviewed* me about my journey from being a crappy hermit and turning myself into a happy hermit:

About being super introverted. (Which does NOT mean that I’m shy, but that I need A LOT of alone time to feel happy & balanced. Hence the ‘hermit’.)

About how I never managed to have enough alone time.

How CRAP that made me feel. What made me turn that around. And HOW I did that.

(It’s a super cool conversation—I think you’ll love it! It’s completely open, honest and raw, just the way I like it.*)

After the interview we chatted some more, and she said:

You’re a billionaire. You truly are. In how you successfully created your life the way you want it. In how you march to the beat of your own drum.

And it hit me. In a good way.

Because I sometimes have a tendency to look at my bank account and think “goddammit! I’m so NOT where I want to be yet!”

And yeah, yeah, I KNOW. Success isn’t about money, and neither is happiness, and I know better, and I’m super grateful for all that I have, and blabla etcetera—AND a thought like that still crosses my mind from time to time.

But Lisa’s* remark made me realize how crazy amazing my life already is.

It wasn’t easy to get to this point but holy fuck, I got there!!!

Because I decided to stop tolerating anything less than what I TRULY wanted, and I did everything it took to get to where I am now.

So yes, I’m a billionaire—just like YOU can be!

You can live life on your terms, too.

You can find ways to shape your life and business around who you truly are, instead of trying to fit into a mold that’s not perfect for you.

No, it’s not always easy, and YES it’s doable and SO WORTH IT!!

Start by dreaming about the kind of life you’d love to live.

Don’t think about the form.

Don’t think about the business model or what your ideal house or partner should look like.

Focus on the essence.

How do you choose to feel?

What do you want your life to be about?

What kind of life do you want to look back on?

Feel, baby. 


Don’t think about the next steps.

Thinking about that is what pulls you away from yourself and your dreams to begin with.

Focus on how you want to feel and what you want your life to be about first.

Once you connect with that feeling, you DECIDE that that is what your life will be like.

The next steps will fall into place after that.

(Yeah, I know, this sounds vague and you want to know more but seriously: FEEL FIRST, DECIDE NEXT, AND THE NEXT STEPS WILL SHOW UP FOR YOU AFTER THAT.)

To feeling,


And being uncompromisingly true to YOU in everything you do,



* Lisa Cherney interviewed me for her ‘Get Fucking Real Podcast’. Our episode drops on May 6 (or May 5, one of the two.) I’ll send you an email when it’s live and you can listen to it.

P.S.: I started writing my 7th book recently, which is all about this journey, too! You have to be patient, though: ‘The Happy Hermit – how to thrive as an introvert entrepreneur’ will be published in December / January. (I have 2 other books lined up to publish before that.)

P.P.S. : Want to become a billionaire, too? (Not in money, although: who knows??)

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