When you see someone who has achieved something you aspire, what’s your default response to that?
Does this make you feel like you can have this, too? That what they’ve achieved (or something even better!) is available and possible for you as well?
Or do you instantly look for reasons why they can have it but you can’t?
Do you try to find reasons why they have it easier than you or why they can accomplish this but you can’t?
I used to have the second response.
When I saw someone who already had what I aspired, I was inspired for a couple of moments but quickly and actively started looking for reasons why I could never do or have that.
I know why I did it. I did it to prevent myself from disappointments and failure.
When you expect little, not much can go wrong, right?
You can only fail in small ways and feel a little disappointed if you don’t expect too much.
I did it to sabotage myself, because it felt safer to stay where I was than stepping into something new and unknown.
I did it for a bunch of other reasons / limiting beliefs and constructs and most of all, I did this UNCONSCIOUSLY.
That is, I sort of knew I did it, but I didn’t REALLY know it.
And I definitely didn’t know how much I limited myself and kept myself small by doing this!
The truth is this:
Whatever you desire and dream of is available and possible for you.
Especially when it comes from your soul: you have everything within you to let this unfold for you.
What’s possible for others is possible for you, too, regardless of your past results or if you think another has it easier than you.
We’re ALL souls having a human experience, we ALL have access to the same cosmic powers and resources, we ALL have our own spiritual team and we are ALL much more powerful than we think.
Explore what your default reaction is when you see someone who has achieved or possesses something you desire.
Do you see this as confirmation that it’s possible for you, too?
Does it inspire you?
Do you explore what you can learn from their state of being, their mindset, how they show up and how they act?
Or… do you look for all the reasons they have it easier and you can never have what they have / accomplish what they’ve accomplished?
One of these reactions helps you grow and reach further than your current limitations / situation.
The other reaction keeps you small and exactly where you are and have always been.
I bet you can guess which response leads to which result. :-)
(At least, I hope you do!)
Explore and see if you can make an inner shift.
It’s a relatively small shift.
All it takes is awareness and a decision: how do you choose to respond from now on?
(And then, of course, pay attention to how you actually respond the moment you get across someone who has something you desire but you haven’t achieved yet…)
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