I’m on a clearing spree again.

Or still.

Or maybe even permanently.

Anyhow, I’ve been clearing all kinds of stuff today:

Physical stuff (old notes; dead plants on my balcony).

Emotional stuff (old pain that doesn’t serve me anymore)

Mental stuff (old beliefs & perspectives I no longer need).

Spiritual stuff (energies that no longer serve me cleared out of my system and my body.)

All this clearing opens doors for new life to find me.

It always does.

I’m very good at getting rid of clutter or beliefs that no longer work for me.

I LOVE that!

But I’m not always good at other kinds of clearing up: the kind of clearing that involves other people.

Like breaking off friendships – which I’ve only done a couple of times in my life. And these were not my favorite moments.

But it had to be done, so I did it.

Or like firing someone – another thing that’s not my favorite.

I remember how, many years ago, I kept postponing firing someone who didn’t do a good enough job.

Certain tasks I hired her for, she did well.

Other tasks I hired her for, however…she did not do very well. At all.

But I liked her.

And I felt sorry for her.

So I kept looking at all her qualities and all the things that were right about the job she did for me.

The only thing is….

I completely forgot myself in the process.

I let my emotions get in the way.

And chickened out on doing what was best for me and my business.

Until one day, after putting up with this for waaaaayyyyyy too long, I finally mustered enough courage to fire her.

I can still feel the relief I felt immediately after.

And felt how a HUGE amount of energy was instantly freed up.

I had NOT consciously registered yet how much time & energy putting up with subpar work had actually cost me.

That day, I promised myself I would NEVER put myself in that position ever again.

And I kept that promise ever since.

So today, I fired someone I hired to do a specific job for me.

She seemed like someone who’d do a great job for me.

But it turned out that we weren’t on the same wavelength. And I knew it wasn’t possible to get an outcome that would make me over the moon happy.

I tried. So did she. But we just didn’t find each other.

This time, I did not settle.

I didn’t put up with something that wasn’t completely as I wanted it to be.

So I fired her as soon as I was clear that this was not going to work.

This afternoon, I emailed my weekly check-in to my coach.

I mentioned that I fired this person, because we weren’t on the same wavelength and her work would never make me truly happy.

My coach emailed this back to me:

“…and YES to firing the person that wasn’t working for you.

You get to have it all EXACTLY the way YOU want it…or better!”

I do indeed.

And so do you!


I know how easy it can be (or SEEM) to settle for something less than you truly want:

Because you don’t want to rock the boat.

Don’t want to upset others.

Are afraid there’s no alternative and you just have to make do with what you can get.

Fear that what you want is impossible in general, or for you.

There are many more reasons why you sometimes put up with things (or people) that don’t make you over the moon happy.

Until the price of that becomes too high.

Or the pain of it becomes unbearable.

You don’t have to wait for that moment to arrive, though.

You can choose something different right now.

Yes, sometimes that means you have to give up something without guarantee that something better will fill its place.

But something better IS available to you – if you leave the door open for it to find you.

And the only way to open that door?

Is to let go of what you’re currently tolerating, settling for, and putting up with – even though you already know it’s NOT what’s best for you.

And it’s NOT what you truly want.

What are you currently tolerating and putting up with?

Big and/or small?

Start deleting it, fixing it, and changing it.

Something (or someone) better IS available for you.

All you have to do is open the door….

To making space so new life can find you,

©️ Brigitte van Tuijl



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