Let’s cut straight to the chase:

The lesson I learned – again! – this year, is this: when something feels like a no, say no.

 

Here’s what happened:

Someone asked to interview me.

I read her email, and the VERY first answer that came up when I only opened it, and hadn’t even read a word she wrote, was NO.

 

I KNOW this kind of NO.

It’s not the ‘no’ born from fear of doing something outside of my comfort zone.

It’s not the ‘no’ that comes from fear of not being capable enough.

It’s not the ‘no’ that comes from fear of not having the time or the energy for it.

It’s not the ‘no’ that comes from feeling unworthy or not measuring up to others who said ‘yes’ before me.

 

It was the NO that comes from my intuition, my deepest, innate knowing of what decision is in my highest good and perfectly aligned with my soul’s path.

It’s the ‘no’ I can blindly trust.

Just like I can blindly trust the ‘yes’ that comes from this same source.

99,9% of the time, I honor whatever answer comes straight from my soul.

I usually have no problem saying ‘no’.

I have no problem saying ‘yes’ even when it scares me or makes me feel uncomfortable, either.

And I have no problem following my intuition, even when for the life of me, I don’t understand the direction it gives me.

 

And yet….I said ‘yes’.

My rational mind – or, better yet, my fears of missing out on something – kicked in and took over:

Wasn’t this a great opportunity for more visibility?

Wasn’t this an easy way to show up in front of more people, new people, who never heard of me before?

Wasn’t this an easy way to potentially grow my reach, and my list, and spread my message?

And I love speaking, and being interviewed.

So why say ‘no’?

There were only benefits!

(Or so my mind told me…)

 

So I said yes.

We did the interview, and it was super fun.

And then…

 

A little crack showed up in the oh-but-this-is-a-great-opportunity-so-saying-no-is-self-sabotage-Van-Tuijl!-bubble.

The arrangement we made eventually wasn’t honored.

The date and what we agreed upon changed, and changed again, without any communication.

Long story short:

Almost 7 months and several emails later, the interview STILL hasn’t aired, things shifted in my own business so the topic is no longer a perfect match to my business, and the freebie mentioned in the interview is no longer available.

Which is no problem, because, as mentioned, the interview has not aired and I doubt it ever will.

 

So, other than it being a really nice conversation, it was a waste of time.

Time, effort, energy and, in the end, annoyance, I could have completely saved myself if only I’d honored my inner knowing and said ‘no’ when I felt it!

Even though it seemed like a nice opportunity and my rational mind could only come up with reasons to say ‘yes’.

 

Because, to be clear, this is on me. *I*created this: this is the direct result me ignoring my own inner knowing.

Thankfully, I learned that lesson, again.

(Because I cannot even count the times I felt the answer was ‘no’ and I still said yes, because my mind or fears talked me into saying ‘yes’.

Or the other way around: to say ‘no’ when I felt that the answer was ‘yes’.

 And the result has ALWAYS, 100% of the time, been the exact same:

My intuition was right. I wasted time, energy, and often even money by ignoring it.

And I told myself that this was the LAST time I didn’t listen to it!  

Only to do it again…:-))

 

Ah, well. Not beating myself up over it.

I’ll dive into the underlying reasons for ignoring my soul, learn whatever lesson I haven’t received yet, and that’s that.

 

And it’s not a big deal, by the way – just a friendly reminder to trust my soul and inner knowing deeply and blindly in WHATEVER it tells me.

 

This morning, I received another interview request.

From a super nice person, with her heart in the right place, and it wouldn’t cost a lot of time, and I like doing interviews….

But my soul said ‘no’.

So I said ‘no’.

 

Do you always honor the voice of your soul? (And do you even recognize it to begin with?)

It’s well worth reflecting on that, because what’s true for me, is true for you, too:

Ignoring your soul, your deepest truth, will ALWAYS send you on a detour.

It NEVER pays off.

And you ALWAYS end up regretting it – a little or a lot, but regret all the same.

 

To honoring your truth and listening to your soul,

Always,

 

Brigitte

 

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