Don’t do this. You can’t say that! That’s not how it’s done. Don’t be like that!

Because I said so! It doesn’t work like that. My house, my rules.

You must go to school / piano lessons / grandma / your parents’ boring friends.

You can’t be like this. Behave!

 

I could go on, but I think you get the picture:

These are messages we grew up with. Were raised with. By parents, teachers, and every other ‘authority’ figure who had anything to do with you when you grew up.

 

Whether you received similar messages or completely different ones, here’s what they all have in common:

These messages tell you that you’re not good enough.

That who you are, what you do, how you do it, what you think, or say or feel is not good enough.

 

They tell you that you can’t have what you want and can’t be who you are.

They tell you there are Rules you Must Obey or you Will Not be loved, won’t fit in, and won’t ‘make it’ in this world.

They tell you that you only matter and you can only make money when you do as you’re told and behave like this and change whatever other people don’t like, don’t improve of or can’t deal with.

 

And you hear it so often, from so young an age, that you can’t help but internalize these messages.

And one day, you don’t need anyone else criticizing you, questioning you, condemning you, judging you, denying you, or questioning you anymore:

You do it all by yourself now.

 

It’s now you who tells you that who you are, what you do, how you do it, what you think, or say or feel is not good enough.

It’s now you who tells you that you can’t have what you want and can’t be who you are.

It’s now you who tells you there are Rules you have to Obey or you Will Not be loved, won’t fit in, won’t ‘make it’ in this world.

It’s now you who tells you that you only matter and can only make money when you do as you’re told and behave like this and change whatever other people don’t like, don’t improve of or can’t deal with.

 

But baby?

It’s up to YOU now.

NO ONE has any say over you anymore.

You’re free to be who you are and to do what you love.

IT’S UP TO YOU NOW.

 

You’re free to do and be and say and feel and think and want and have WHATEVER YOU CHOOSE.

You have your own BUSINESS and that’s YOUR playground, YOUR creation, and YOU are the one with the one and only, final say on EVERYTHING in it.

You have your own LIFE and that’s YOUR playground, YOUR creation, and YOU are the one with the one and only, final say on EVERYTHING in it.

 

IT’S ALL UP TO YOU NOW.

So if you TRULY believed this is true, what would you stop doing and forever let go of?

What would you do & believe, dream & receive, if you acknowledged that it’s all up to YOU and YOU are the boss now?

 

Remember: It IS up to you.

So whatever answer or desire came up?

Go do that.

Have fun. Be you. LIVE!

 

To being true to you & doing what you love,

 

© Brigitte van Tuijl

 

 

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