You were always meant to be different.

You weren’t born to blend in, be like everybody else, do like they do, think like they do.

You weren’t born to be ‘normal’ (whatever that even is).

You weren’t born to please others.


You weren’t born to deny who you are and rebuild yourself to someone else’s idea of how you should be, how you should act, or who you should be.

You were always meant to think different.

Act different.

BE different.



Who do you think bring art, change, renewal and healing to this planet?

The ones who are ‘normal’?

The ones who fit in?

The ones who do exactly like others, think exactly like others, ARE exactly like others?

Of course not.


What we get when everyone does what everyone else is already doing, is more of what we already have.

Which is great, in some cases. Some things need preserving, treasuring, holding on to, passed on to future generations.


I don’t know, actually. I’m more of a let’s-throw-it-all-out-and-build-something-new kinda person.

I’m someone who looks at the way things are and wonders why they can’t be different.


And IF things stay the way they are, there had better be a REAL DAMN GOOD reason for it.

So I’m not the one to be talking about holding on to what’s already here.

Because I’m not born to bring more sameness to this world.


And if you are still here, still reading on?

Neither are you.


You and I, we’re different.

And we’re different for a reason.

A DAMN good reason:

We are MEANT to be different.

We are BORN to look at things and question them.


To improve things, throw out what doesn’t work, come up with new ideas, perspectives and solutions, and to then SHARE THOSE WITH OTHERS.


Here’s what one of my clients wrote in a testimonial for my program RISE, for example:

“Other business coaches often feel pushy, and that doesn’t feel good to me at all.

Brigitte helps me see that my business works best if I do everything on my own terms, and honor myself completely.”


And no, I’m not sharing this to toot my own horn – no, wait, that’s not true, I definitely AM sharing this to toot my own horn, of course I am, AND to also make a point in doing so.


Because here’s the ripple effect of me being true to who I am, and embracing, owning and sharing what’s different about me – which is the SAME ripple effect that YOU will have when YOU embrace, own, and share what’s different about YOU, too:

This client does AH-MA-ZING work in this world. She brings the gifts of love, healing, balance, sensitivity, quiet, respect, and caring for other people, animals, and the planet we all live on.

She helps heal her clients, which has its own positive ripple effect on each of her client’s lives, which has another positive ripple effect on the people around them.

You get the picture, right?


Now, this client was already doing this work when she started working with me.

But since then, she’s learned to embrace and honor herself, her gift, and what makes her different soooo much more.


She no longer feels she has to blend in, be like others, grow her business like so many others do – which might be perfectly fine for all those others, but NOT for HER.

And when you feel that maybe you have to act different, think different, BE different than you truly are if you want to grow your business (or even keep it afloat)?

You cannot possibly thrive.

You cannot possible feel happy and fulfilled in your business, and in the work you do.

You cannot possibly fully share your TRUE gift with this world.


Because toning down your personality, watering down who you ARE,  ALSO ALWAYS MEANS YOU’RE WATERING DOWN YOUR TRUE GIFT.


And then you’re NOT doing what you’re born to do.

And you will FEEL that.

You will MISS that.



And when you don’t express it?

You feel miserable.

Your business cannot thrive (as least: not without great cost to your energy and happiness and how you feel day in day out.)

And finally: the change you are here to bring is not fully being made.


But don’t let THAT final reason be the main reason to come out of your shell!!!

You have to want it for YOU, otherwise wanting to help others becomes yet another form of pressure you put on yourself for what you feel you must do.

No pressure on yourself!!


The ONLY ‘pressure’ that’s ever acceptable to act on is the longing of your own heart, your own soul.   


Long story short:

You are different because you are MEANT to be different.

Because YOUR contribution to the whole is that you’re meant to be a vehicle for change, for doing things differently, looking at things differently, thinking about things in a new and refreshing way, doing things in a completely or slightly different way.


You were MADE different so you could MAKE A DIFFERENCE: YOUR difference.

So stop hiding who you are.

Stop toning down what you think is too much, too weird, too out there, too strange.

Embrace who you TRULY are.

Set whatever you’re not free. Let it go.


Stop looking around wondering what others need or expect from you, and start looking within and give YOURSELF whatever YOU want and need from YOU.


This is how the world works, baby.

We’re all who we are because we’re meant to BE EXACTLY WHO WE WERE WHEN WE WERE BORN – and to live & express the shit out of that, whatever that looks like for YOU.


To your quirks, your weirdness, and everything that makes you different!

You’re a breath of fresh air and a gift to this world.


© Brigitte van Tuijl


P.S.: Inner blocks & obstacles like the ones in this article are the ONLY thing standing between you and whatever it is you want to experience or achieve.


Clearing those blocks is all you have to do to live your DREAMS instead of your fears.

It’s not always easy to cut through your own crap or heal your own inner turmoil, though.

That’s why I created RISE, my onine business healing program for women entrepreneurs.

RISE helps you break free with done for you healings!

It gives you the tools, clearings, (healing) energy, mindset & support to transform and let go of your inner crap, so it no longer holds you back from whatever it is you TRULY want to do in your business & life.

You can read all about & sign up for it here.




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