You know that saying, ‘you’re either living your dreams or your fears’?

You probably do.

And when you hear it, you’re probably nodding your head in agreement.

And when I ask you which kind of life you choose, I know what you’re going to say:

“I choose to live my dreams, Brigitte! Why the hell would I ever choose to live my fears?”



When I put it THAT way, no one will EVER say:

“Oh, I choose to live my fears. That’s what I most want to do with my life. And that’s what I want to look back on when I’m old and grey: a life of unfulfilled hopes and dreams. A life I just let pass me by because I chose to stay within the confines of my fears.”


No one consciously CHOOSES that.


And yet…

When you look at the life you are currently living…

Where are you living your dreams?

And where are you living your fears?


Don’t get me wrong, I’m not criticizing you!

This is about awareness.

About being honest with yourself.

About looking at both your deepest dreams AND your deepest fears, and CONSCIOUSLY choosing what you want to go for.


Because life is precious and short.

Because you have it in you to at least GO for your dreams – whether you’ll reach them or not, is irrelevant. NOT going for them guarantees you won’t ever reach them.

And you never know what happens when you do.


And yes, that can be SO scary.

That’s why it took me 2 years to muster up enough courage to quit my job and start my business.

That’s why it took me almost 4 years before I finally honored my dream to work globally, and completely transform my business and start almost from scratch.

That’s why it took me 2 years before I even had my first website, for crying out loud: because the thought of being visible scared the bejeezus out of me.


And these are just the ‘big’ fears connected to the seemingly ‘big’ goals and leaps.

There are countless little things that make me hold back, shrink myself, or that I use as an excuse to NOT do something I would like to do.


You do that, too.

I KNOW you do.

And that’s OK.

For as long as you’re OK with that.


At some point, sooner or later, you have to choose love over fear and your dreams over your nightmares.

(Unless you’re OK with looking back on a life lived in fear and never even having tried something, that is.)


It’s scary at first.

The fear can be so big that your body goes into high alert and you puke it all out or suddenly have trouble breathing.

I know.

I’ve BEEN that scared.


And I also know, that when you just stay with it…and keep breathing…and keep feeling…you ALWAYS get through it.

And on the other side of it is so much space, joy, and freedom!

It’s uncomfortable for only a little bit, and the reward….is amazing.


NOW you’re living your dream.

You’ve acknowledged your fear, patted it on the head, and went for your deepest desire anyway.


For me right now, the thing that scares me most is opening up to find my dream home. It may sound like the stupidest fear on earth, but for me it’s BIG.

It triggers all kinds of deep rooted fears and insecurities that make it feel like I have to climb a mountain so high, it’s almost not worth taking that first step.

But I’m DONE where I live right now.

And I’m DONE living this particular fear.

So I choose my dream. Over my fear.


I know I’ll be fine.

I know that, once I’ve found that house and moved, I can’t imagine what it once was that scared me so deeply.

And I’ll ask myself why the hell I waited so long and didn’t make this decision sooner.

Just like I did when I finally DID quit my job, created that first website, wrote that first book, made that first video, did that first teleseminar, wrote that first article or finally worked globally.

And all the other times I chose my dreams over my fears.


I know you can relate to this, too.


You too, have done countless things that scared you, only to ask yourself why you didn’t do this sooner.

You’ve done it a million times before.

And you can do it a million times more.


So, tell me:

Where are you living your fear instead of your dream?

Where are you shrinking back, and not doing something you’d actually love to do?

Where in your business, in your life, in big and small ways, are you not fully showing up, not fully LIVING?


Take a deep breath, and honor your dream, your soul, your longing, your calling.

And GO.

You’ve got this!

© Brigitte van Tuijl



P.S.: Need some help? 

If it’s the BIG business dream you finally want to go for, maybe I can help you 1-1. You can read all about it here.


If it’s the smaller, yet equally freeing step of playing in your business more, being more creative, and honoring the fun things you would LIKE to do but you’re not doing right now: Uncork Your Creativity is for you.

Like all my programs, this one is all about liberation, freedom and flow – and a shitload of fun on top of it!

 I’d love to support you.


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