It’s so easy to keep yourself busy.

It gives you a sense of accomplishment: you’re doing things! You can scratch things off of your to-do list!

And we all know this, of course:

If you want something to happen, you have to MAKE it happen.

You have to ACT, and DO things, all day every day, and if you don’t, you will never amount to anything and never manifest your dreams.

Therefore you MUST keep yourself busy and DO things all the time.



That’s a fat fucking lie.

Do you have to do things to manifest your dreams and accomplish your goals?



The RIGHT things, in the RIGHT time.

Which are usually NOT the things you’re doing to keep yourself busy.

That only gives you a false sense of security and the idea that you’re working on your goals.


It’s so easy to keep yourself busy.

Which is, of course, why you do it.

It’s far more difficult to do the EXACT thing you need to do right now to accomplish whatever it is you want to accomplish.

‘Cause sometimes that thing is scary. Or painful.

It confronts you with something you fear doing.

Or it triggers underlying fears of not being capable, not being worthy, not being good enough, not being loved enough.

Sometimes it triggers fears of failure. Sometimes it triggers fears of success.


And so you keep yourself busy.

So you can tell yourself that you’re doing things that need to be done, and that other thing you REALLY need to do?

Well, you’ll get to that when you have time and space for it.

You don’t have to do it now. It’s not the right time. The stars aren’t aligned.

Your kid isn’t grown up enough yet. And come to think of it, neither is your man.


So you keep yourself busy, and time goes by, and you’re feeling OK, and you’re kind of satisfied, and that should be enough dammit, ‘cause who are you to keep wanting more when you already have so much?


I know.

I’ve done this a million times myself.

I’ve been running circles around myself. Kept myself busy for the sake of being busy.

I’ve been stalling and waiting and sabotaging and not doing the thing I KNEW I had to do.

I see my clients do it. (And ALWAYS confront them with it.)

And I am 100% sure that YOU’ve done it, too.

Hell, you may even be doing it now.


Which is fine.

If you’re OK with settling for a life half lived, your potential partly fulfilled, your dreams mostly buried, your gift not making the difference it potentially could, your zest for live toned down, and your business merely surviving or mildly thriving.



If you’re NOT OK with that…

If you HAVE a dream you’ve had for years, and you’re taking steps towards it and then you step back again, and if you really feel into it you feel all fired up and you know, you KNOW, that you were BORN for this…

And if you’re honest you still deeply WANT it, even if it scares you, or you’re not sure where to start, and you doubt you truly have what it takes to make it happen…



Here’s a great way to check if you’re doing that thing that matters most if you’re serious about manifesting your dream:

Ask yourself this question:

How can I make sure that I NEVER EVER IN A MILLION YEARS accomplish that dream of mine?

What can I do to completely, totally, utterly fuck it up forever?


Chances are, the answer is an almost exact description of what you’re doing right now.

Which are the exact things you should NOT be doing, and that you’re only doing to keep yourself busy to avoid that thing you know you SHOULD be doing.


Want to get more of the same?

Keep doing what you’re doing.

Want something different?

Then it’s time to start thinking, being, and acting differently.

And if you’re really honest with yourself, you already know what it is you SHOULD be doing instead of the things you ARE doing.



“The problem is not that we don’t know what to do.

The problem is that we don’t do what we know.”


Chris Argyris



It’s time to stop keeping yourself so damn busy, baby.

And to start doing what you KNOW you should be doing right now.

Go do it!

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I promise you it’s not as scary or difficult as you think it is.

You have what it takes – we ALL have everything we need to fulfill our purpose and deepest dreams. It’s within our reach and within ourselves this very minute.

You can learn what you don’t know yet and can unlearn what doesn’t serve you.

You can completely surprise yourself with what you’re capable of…

If only you START. DOING. IT. NOW.


Take at least one step, no matter how small, today.

Keep taking steps from now on.

And before you know it, you will soar.

And the immediate positive effect?

Is that you’ll instantly feel sooooo much better about yourself.

So go do it.

You’ve got this!!!


© Brigitte van Tuijl


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