Over the years I’ve noticed there are 3 major stuck points that hold women entrepreneurs back.

If you’re struggling to grow your business, it’s probably due to one of these obstacles:

Stuck point #1: self-doubt

Who’s waiting for what I have to offer? I doubt I’m good enough.

I feel like a fraud, an imposter. I’m afraid people will eventually find out I’m not all that good and want their money back.

Sound familiar? Most likely – I have yet to meet the first woman who never felt something like this. Myself included 🙂

This helps:
Shift your focus from your doubts to the difference your service makes in the lives of your clients. What becomes possible for them once you’ve helped them overcome their biggest problem?

Focus on helping the people you know you can help. (Yes, despite your doubts, you KNOW this. Your soul knows.)

Stuck point #2: perfectionism

Nothing is ever good enough. And it’s definitely never perfect.

Which is a great excuse to stay where you are until things, people, circumstances or you will be perfect.

Only…that day never comes. And deep down, you already know that.

Or do you still hang on to the ‘but it’s not professional if it’s not perfect!’ – excuse?

Or the ‘there’s nothing wrong with striving for perfection!’ – excuse?

Here’s what’s really going on with perfectionism:

You think you need to be perfect or else you won’t be loved, liked or respected.

As I read in Alexander Loyd’s book ‘The Healing Code’:


“She became a perfectionist because of the underlying belief that she would only be
loved if she got everything right (as is usually the case with perfectionists.)”


This helps:

Allow yourself to make mistakes. Know that your self-worth has NOTHING to do with ANYTHING you do.

You’re good enough. You’re worthy. You don’t have to earn that or prove it to anyone.

Allow yourself to be ALL of YOU – your genius AND mistakes included.

Stuck point #3: fear of failure

What if it doesn’t work out? What if no one signs up? What if I do all this, and there’s STILL no result?

Two things are certain in business (and life):

1.  You’ll NEVER know if something works out until you DO it.

2.  It’s impossible to never fail at anything.

This helps:

Failure is part of success and growth. It’s part of creating, inventing, and doing new things. And it’s most definitely part of being an entrepreneur.

You WILL fail.

Which is no problem at all, as long as you deal with it in a constructive way.

Which is to first let off steam and let your emotions out. And then look at what it taught you:

  • What can you do differently next time? What did you learn?
  • What’s the opportunity on the other side of this failure?

Don’t give up or beat yourself up.


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Let Thomas Edison inspire you – he didn’t let failure stop him, like EVERY other inventor before and after him:

“I have not failed. I’ve just found 10,000 ways that didn’t work.”

Don’t let any of these stuck points hold you back or define you.

You CAN get past it. Decide you will, and GO for it. And: hire a coach or join a mastermind. You need that if you’re serious about succeeding.

As Simon Sinek said:

“Failure you can do alone. Success always takes help.”

Good luck!


© Brigitte van Tuijl

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