“If there’s ONE thing you’d like to learn from me, what would that be? Is there something you see me do/be/have that you would LOVE to do/be/have yourself, and wonder how to get there?”, I asked in one of my Facebook groups yesterday.

One of the women responded with this question:

“What I see you doing is that you keep going. Something I would love to learn myself.”

She wrote how getting clients makes her feel uneasy sometimes, and asked me how you can deal with these feelings.


Let’s get one thing straight first:

Growing a business often (regularly!!) feels uncomfortable, uneasy and scary.

That doesn’t change.

The ONLY way to never feel uneasy is to stop growing, play it safe, settle for what you have and never strive for anything more.

Nothing wrong with that. IF that’s what you want.


If that’s NOT what you want, and you want more, you want to grow, then you WILL feel uncomfortable and uneasy often.

EVERY fear, doubt or limiting belief you have about yourself, money, business, your work, your worth, the world, safety, visibility, marketing, sales, and any other type of resistance, doubt or fear that lurks in the shadows of your mind WILL get triggered and WILL show up.

Just so you know 😉


If you’re not willing to deal with that, you’ll never grow beyond your current level in your business.


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So HOW you deal with that, starts here:

  • Accept that this is part of growing and building the business you most deeply dream of, and fulfilling your deepest calling. You don’t have to like this, as long as you stop fighting it.
  • Decide you will not let this stop you: you’re committed to move forward NO MATTER WHAT.


What helps, is to surround yourself with people who get & support you. Friends, fellow entrepreneurs, and a mentor or coach.

What helps, is to keep taking action, every single day, in the direction of your dreams.

What helps, is to ask for help from both other people and the universe.

What helps, is to never give up.

All of this helps. Is necessary, even.

But what’s MOST helpful, is answering these 3 questions.

This helps you focus on the big picture, your big WHY, and why dealing with feeling uncomfortable and uneasy even matters at all:


  1. Who do I want to be?


  1. How do I want to live?


  1. What do I really want to accomplish – and why?


The answers to these 3 questions help you focus on the essence of what your life AND your business are all about for you.


And THAT’S what keeps you going.

Despite your fears. Despite your doubts and insecurities.

And despite the fact that manifesting your dream, your vision, and the business & life you TRULY dream of, feels fucking uncomfortable & uneasy at times.


In case you’re curious, these are my own short & sweet answers that keep me going:


#1: I choose to be the best and most fully alive version of myself I can possibly be.


#2 I choose to achieve my highest potential, and live a life of no regrets. When I die, I don’t want to look back at my life and wonder what would have happened if only I tried… 

I choose to look back on a life lived full out, and to be able to say: I’m so glad I did….

As Mark Twain so beautifully put it:


“Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things that you didn’t do than by the ones you did.

So throw off the bowlines.

Sail away from the safe harbor.

Catch the trade winds in your sails.





#3 Building a  7-figure inspiration & information empire.

Because it’s my purpose, my dream, and my mission to inspire & teach millions of women entrepreneurs to create success and make a difference as a direct result of being true to who they are. To follow their calling, live full out, in their own way, on their own terms – without compromising, apologizing or changing who they are.


Answer those questions for yourself now. 

It will help you move through any resistance so much quicker!


© Brigitte van Tuijl


P.S.: Your inner blocks, resistance & obstacles are the ONLY thing standing between you and whatever it is you most want to experience or achieve.

Clearing those blocks is all you have to do to live your DREAMS instead of your fears.

It’s not always easy to cut through your own crap or heal your own inner turmoil, though.

That’s why I created RISE, my online membership program for women entrepreneurs.

RISE gives you the tools, clearings, (healing) energy, mindset & support to transform and let go of your inner crap, so it no longer holds you back from whatever it is you TRULY want to do in your business & life.

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