3 tips to help you grow & stretch

There’s always something new to learn or do.

There’s always a next step to take, decision to make, or challenge to face. All growth takes place outside of your comfort zone.

As a result, growing and learning ALWAYS feels uncomfortable.

Some people think this is a sign to stop what they’re doing and step back into safety. It’s not. It’s simply part of change and growth.


These tips help you deal with feeling uncomfortable so it doesn’t stop you anymore:

Tip #1: Allow yourself to learn

How did you learn to walk? I bet you fell on your butt or tripped over your own feet more than once.

Did you think you were an idiot because you weren’t able to walk the first time you tried?

Did you think you weren’t worthy of walking because it took you so long to get the hang of it?

Did you think there was no reason to try again, because you already tried and it didn’t work?

No. You just got up and tried again.

Step into this same attitude when you learn or do something new today: Take a step. See where it takes you. Get back up when you fall. Don’t judge yourself. Improve what you can. Don’t worry if you don’t get it ‘right’ the first time.
Tip #2: Acknowledge & accept 

It simply means you stop fighting your emotions. You allow yourself to feel what you feel, and accept that this is what it is right now, this second. Feel it – don’t label it or judge it.

Just feel what you feel, and lean into it instead of pulling away from it. Don’t forget to take deep breaths. That way you literally breathe through the emotion, so it can leave your body instead of stay stuck inside you.


Tip #3: Shift your perspective

Stop focusing on what you don’t want. Keep your eye on the prize: the goal you want to reach. How you’ll feel when you’ve reached it.

Think about the things that become possible as a result of you taking this step or learning something new.

Don’t let feeling uncomfortable stop you from going for the things you REALLY want. Keep going for your dreams and goals. And enjoy the journey while you’re at it 😉


© 2014 Brigitte van Tuijl
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