I wrote this post in May 2012, but I’m resposting today because I think it can still serve & inspire you. Enjoy!

Lately I realized that I was dreading the new phase I’m growing towards in my business.

I noticed I was holding back and not doing everything I knew I should be doing to move forward with my business and my book.

At first I couldn’t put my finger on it: what was I avoiding and why was I doing that?


But soon I realized that it was the same thing I face every time I grow and am getting ready to step into the next phase:

It sometimes feels (highly) uncomfortable to step into something you don’t know yet.

This happens every time a new phase shows up on the horizon.

You grow and change, and as a result your business grows and changes.


And the nature of your challenges, questions and what’s required of you to move forward change as well.

When you’re new in business you have different hurdles to take than you do when you move out of this start-up phase and move forward to the next phase.

And when you grow out of that phase, you encounter new and different things to think about and act upon.


This never ends.

Feeling uncomfortable and initially dreading what’s new and yet unknown to you is part of the process of growing and having a business.

It’s part of life.


Every level has a new devil, and you can only grow and move forward if you’re willing to face this, and find a way to move forward anyway.

(TIP: thinking about your devils and writing them down often diminishes the hold they have on you immediately.)


So how do you know if you’re subconsciously resisting change and growth?

These are 3 possible signs of it:


#1 You feel restless, irritated and/or uncomfortable

You feel like you chase your own tale. You find it harder to concentrate. You experience less joy in the things you do. You feel irritated, bored, and restless.

And no matter what you do, there’s always something nagging in the back of your mind…the feeling that you’re not doing enough, or not the right things, or…


#2 Deep down you know what to do, but somehow you’re not doing it…

You procrastinate. You keep yourself busy but with what exactly? You avoid taking action and put yourself on hold.

You tell yourself there are good reasons to wait: you need more time / you need more money / something else needs to be done or solved first – but you’re not really sure what that ‘something’ is…


#3 You can’t seem to move forward, no matter what you do or try. 

You take action. You have a plan. You have a vision. You’re doing everything you can and should do.

But nothing changes.

You seem to stay exactly where you are, and you don’t have a clue how you can change this.


Do you recognize one or more of these signs? 

Then you’re definitely stuck.

Most likely because there’s something about that new level that doesn’t feel okay yet.


If you want to break through that, it’s time to look that devil straight in the eyes.

(and trust me – when you look at it up close, it’s never as scary as you thought it was 😉


Here’s how you do that:


Answer the following questions truthfully and write down everything that comes up:

#1: What do you think you have to do reach the next level of your business?

#2: What do you think you have to let go or give up to get there (that you’re not willing to sacrifice)?

#3: What’s the benefit of staying were you are and not moving forward?


Take your time to write down your answers.

The things that come up may seem irrational or illogical.

Just keep writing until you feel you’ve reached the core of your concerns.


Take a deep breath and then:

Read everything you wrote down while you keep on breathing as deep and slow as you can.

Keep breathing.

And keep reading.


Keep doing this untill you feel something shift (if this hasn’t already happened while you were writing in the first place).

Try it!

Shift into curiosity and dive deep into what might be holding you back.

I promise, if you DO this, and you REALLY look at whatever you fear or dread, it WILL shift.

Get ready to amaze and surprise yourself…

and to move on to your next level whatever that looks like for you.

To expansion and freedom,


© 2012 Brigitte van Tuijl



P.S.: Fears, doubts, resisting change ….these inner blocks & obstacles are the ONLY thing standing between you and whatever it is you most want to experience or achieve.

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